If I were not a woman
the day I was born
Mom wouldn’t have suffered.
Dad wouldn’t have warned
her: You’ve brought shame
to the house!
If I were not a woman
I could have played outside
with other kids.
I could have gone to my favorite school.
Mom couldn’t have prevented
me, saying: School is far.
If I were not a woman
I could wear the light colors I love
and drive the car of my wishes.
I could marry my girlfriend
and Dad would support me,
love not a fault for him.
If I were not a woman but a man,
I could be a coward,
ignorant,
irresponsible,
rude.
Worthy because I was a man,
son of my father and proud,
the pride of my family.
I would have the world of luck
in my foolish pockets.
If I were not a woman
I would never be a hurt,
never be ashamed.
Roya
photo by Lynsey Addario
Dear Roya,
Shame not in being a woman,
for there is strength, beauty and truth in your womanhood.
Though you may know hardship,
you also know compassion.
Though you be denied certain freedoms,
you are still free to choose how you will face these difficulties.
Though the men in your world may be cowards, irresponsible and rude,
you can take pride in the courage and grace with which you speak your truths and live your life.
You are a gift – to yourself, to this world, to others.
Keep writing, dear Roya.
Keep dreaming.
Keep sharing your heart and truths with the world.
With deep respect, Sharon
Roya its heart touching, while reading tears burst out of my eyes, I dont have words to say.
Never lose hope, keep writing, love you dear
This is a powerful poem about life in Afghanistan for women. Your imagery — especially “I would have the world of luck in my foolish pockets” — is startling and lyrical while talking about a truth that all women in your country understand. You are a gifted writer still!
Dear Roya,
I remember when you were first working on this amazing poem. I learned so much from you and am very happy that this poem is published here. I love the line “foolish pockets.” Thank you for your courage and your words.
I, too, love writing poetry. I find that it takes the weight of a mountain off my shoulders, and turns it into something beautiful and delicate, like a flower. That’s what you’ve done. Don’t lose sight of your womanhood, because it truly is amazing, whatever anyone else says.