Before marriage, a girl dreams…

I will find a man who

loves me more than anyone in the world
gives me all the happiness I wish for
helps make all my dreams come true
takes care of me
brings a smile to my face
washes my tears if I cry
notices my sadness and happiness without words
understands my needs without being told.

After marriage, a girl learns these were only wishes.

An Afghan husband expects her to

love him completely
do only what he wants
cook delicious food every day for him
respect all of his friends and family regardless of their behavior
never ask for extra money
stay always at home
never leave the house without permission
agree to everything he says
smile, even when she’s sad
and
live only for him until her life comes to an end.

By Yalda N.

Photo by Jason Tanner.