Editor’s note: Four young women were interviewed here about their struggles and successes in achieving an education in Afghanistan.
I Cried until the Entrance Exams
Mariam, age 25
I graduated in economics at a university in Herat even though my parents did not want me to continue beyond high school. They thought girls should get married after high school, not get a higher education.
I cried every day before registration for the university entrance exams. I tried to register myself but my parents locked me in a room. When my brothers came home and asked what had happened to me, my father said, “Mariam is locked in the house until registration for the entrance exams is closed.”
“Why?” my brothers asked.
“Because she is a girl,” my father said. “Girls should not study at the university.”
My brothers defended my rights. “It doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman,” they said. My father seemed persuaded but my problems were not yet solved. My parents said I must also help support the family; they hoped I would be too tired to go to university. But I learned to sew clothes and every day after classes I sewed for other people to earn money.
Now I have finished my education, I have a good job at an NGO, and I have a good life, but women in Afghanistan still suffer to get an education. They have to wear a burqa to get to the university or to work. Many girls are banned from all education; some can study only until grade six. In places where there are security problems, women can be kidnapped if they go to school.
Many organizations claim to defend women’s rights in Afghanistan, but often their efforts are only symbolic. They should help families who cannot afford to send girls to school and should help graduates find jobs. When there are fewer economic problems, there will be less family violence.
Love and Trust from First Grade
Tamana M., age 19
I finished school at Abul Qasem e Ferdowsi in first position. Now I am a student in the Faculty of Science at Kabul University. But if my family did not love and trust me, it would not have been possible to continue beyond first grade.
Girls face many barriers to education. A major problem is the hurtful needling by boys. We hear very bad speech from the boys at school. Another barrier is the double standard for boys and girls; boys are considered worthy of an education but girls are not. A further problem is security and violence. It is often unsafe for girls to go to school.
Families must encourage education for girls. If women are not educated, 50 percent of our society can’t work and our economy will get worse. My life and the life of a girl who stays home are very different.
When I compare myself with an uneducated girl, I want to improve myself even more. I want to work for change in Afghanistan.
Education: We Pray For It
Alham, age 19
I live in a liberal family that supports knowledge for women. I completed twelve years of basic education in Herat and I have now graduated from psychology at Ashraq private university. If I hadn’t gone to school, I could not plan my life, or even separate good from bad.
The Quran says that demand for knowledge is a thesis for every woman and man. This doesn’t mean that men or women should have to battle for knowledge or education.
In Afghanistan, however, there is a two-sided standard where boys are preferred over girls, and there is a lot of violence against women. This culture blocks education for women. If we have laws, in the future all girls can be educated. We pray for it.
School Safety Is a Challenge
Tamana G., age 22
I am a student in the Faculty of Science at Kabul University. It was through my family’s encouragement that I got to this level of education. If all families did the same for their daughters, Afghanistan would have fewer women without education and with so many problems in their lives.
If I wasn’t educated, other people—especially educated people with jobs—would not listen to me.
But did I see discrimination in the way boys and girls are taught? I will tell the truth: Yes. Our Islamic Studies teachers discriminated in their speech; they spoke against women and created bad examples of women. For families living in the villages, educating girls is an even greater challenge. Here security is a problem and families cannot let their daughters outside to get to school. It is the government’s job to bring security.
Women are part of this country, just like men. If we don’t educate our people, Afghanistan will be left behind. We must encourage everyone to continue with their lessons.