I am not writing this letter to remind you what you did. I have a big heart, and I have forgiven you already. But I want to tell you that I have decided I will not sign the slavery contract again.
I don’t want to live my life like the way I did before. I want to change my life for the better. For my son and daughter. For my children and grandchildren.
Don’t show me your teeth the next time you see me. I know this letter will make you very angry but I am not a child. I am a grown up human, and I know what is right and wrong. It is my right to make mistakes; it is my right to talk and live my life. I know that the world is still a good place to live; I don’t need to hide myself or cover my face all the time.
I have promised myself that I will not listen to you until you promise me that you will accept that you and I are the same. Once you accept this, you and I can support one another, and we can live our two lives freely and happily under the umbrella of love and freedom.
Relax and take a deep breath! You don’t need to worry about who looks at me and who hears my voice. You must trust me. I know the boundaries of right and wrong. I am a modern woman. I want to work with you, support you, and live with you happily.
Please remember to respect me. And then I will love you. Remember to support me, and then I will be with you throughout my life. Accept me as a human being, as you accept yourself.
Call me by my name, Pari.
I don’t live in yesterday’s time. I am not a slave. I am not Bibi Gul, or Mah Gul, or any other woman who has suffered constantly under a culture that oppresses women.
Such a wonderful ending to this series of letters, Pari. There is so much understanding and love and strength in your words. I’m not sure many could be as forgiving as you are — so filled with hope after all this trouble. What an inspiring piece — filled with determination to live life on your own terms. Thank you for writing these heartfelt letters and sharing this story with us.
Dear pari jan,
what a beautiful letter you have written here with truth words, honesty feeling of your heart.
Thank you for sharing of this inspiring piece.
Touching the Deep of the heart