Editor’s note: Sadiqa is a student.
Kandahar — My name is Sadiqa and I am not satisfied with what has been done about gender violence against women. The government is not showing a sense of urgency that we’d like to see. Boys are still more valued than girls.
My friend Shahida was a victim of violence. She was bleeding from the anal area and she told her mother over and over again about it, but her mom was too afraid to tell her husband or sons because of the shame, so she did not go to the doctor. Shahida died young because no one helped her. Had she been a boy, she would have immediately gotten medical treatment.
What we lack is a strong official voice to counter the opponents of gender equality, those reactionary voices. It is very difficult to fight for progress, and the government is not making it a priority. We look in vain for a strong government policy.
We women and victims need to have community social organizations and networks to stop violence. We need education on a community level and pilot projects and help from the new government and international aid agencies.
Recently there has been heavy pressure on the fragile gains made after the Taliban’s fall from power. I hope our new government will come up with some solutions for the women of Afghanistan.
By Sadiqa, as told to Safia
Sadiqa was interviewed for AWWP’s Oral Stories Project as part of our Gender Violence campaign.
Dear Sadiqa and Safia,
This is a sad story about Shahida. Women need to form alliances of trust and love with each other, to ensure that there are women around to support them when the men do not.
Please know that it matters deeply that you speak up and demand a change to the culture that devalues female lives. Speak up. Create new values. Create new art, new spirituality, new traditions. You can’t wait for the government to do it for you. The struggle is long and difficult. We know that everywhere around the globe women have to struggle for their rights. But we can have solidarity between women. It will be great to have well financed programs for women’s equality. But even if there are not such programs women like you can decide to change your own culture.
Wishing all the best and much courage!
I wish I could help, I can feel the desperation in the words.